Every wedding seems to come with endless checklists of tasks: reserve the church and reception hall; send invitations; schedule the photographer, caterer, flowers and decorations; choose the wedding gown; and make the hair appointment, to name a few.Now you've done all the work for the wedding. Are you ready for the work of marriage? But how can it be work? Pop culture tells us, all you need is love. In one sense, pop culture is right: Love is all you need, but only if, as researcher Gary Chapman explains, “love is a verb.” If couples are to meet the challenges and stresses of life, then “love has to be more than something we feel. It has to be something we do.”
Unfortunately, we often think of love as a noun:
