Sex Problems in Men

Talking about it, that is, not engaging in it. The survey says baby boomers – 76 million of them – are the unhappiest Americans when it comes to having sex. And I thought Viagra, Cialis and Levitra solved their problems.

Only 7 percent of the people between 45 and 65 say they are satisfied with their sex lives, the pollsters say. Two in five men say they're having problems performing, despite the "assistance" of available drugs. Only 19 percent of the women report the same, but they don't have to work so hard at having sex. Right?

Main Masturbation Tips For Men And Women

Masturbation can be much more than just a method of getting a quick orgasm. It can be a long lasting and intensely pleasurable experience, if you do it the right way. You can have a great masturbation experience alone, together with your wife or together with a friend. You can also mutually masturbate each other. Here are some tips you can use to get as high an experience as possible.

- Set apart some good time for your masturbation. Also do it in a warm and comfortable place. Tune the light in the room to a relaxing and pleasurable level, but do not let it be totally dark.

- Sit down in a relaxed manner some minutes to stress down. Listen to some relaxing music or look at some erotic pictures.

Sex Hormones

Hormones working on your body at a particular given time, which gives lovers the much-talked about 'high'. Believe it or not, but hormones are a major catalyst in turning that effusive first glance into a lasting relationship stamped by a well-endowed sex life.

"A set of male and female hormones generated in our body at different stages of a relationship play a vital role in making or marring our sex drive, libido or sexual desires," tells, Dr Pankaj Aggarwal , a Delhi-based endocrinologist. So, here are some facts about the libido-governing hormones which constitute the major ingredients of our sex drive:

For Indians Sex is Still Dirty

A considerable section in urban India may be enjoying sexual freedom but for majority of Indians, sex is still a dirty word, says writer Richard Crasta, author of the novel `Revised Kama Sutra`.

"One of the curious things I have noticed is that for lot of Indians, sex is still a dirty word. So it will take time for them to remain relaxed and enjoy the experience," says Crasta, who has come out with a republished version of his raunchy comic novel ‘The Revised Kama Sutra’, published 20 years ago.

Who Want Sex More: Women or Men

Here we go again - we're being presented with another sweeping generalisation. Let's set the record straight - not all men constantly think of sex, and not all women constantly try to avoid sex. We do not have a perpetual headache, and men don't keep their brains in their boxer shorts. Now we've got that out of the way, let's address the question in hand.

Why Your Boyfriend is No Longer Interested in You

Knowing that men and women are factually two different animals, it also reasons that they don't think the same either. Women tend to be more open with their feelings and more capable of extended chances. Whereas men tend to be more introverted and some find it extremely difficult if not impossible to give second chances.

The Most Famous Seducers

Seduction roots can be found in the most ancient myths; the alleged nobility is more recent, perhaps originating from mediaeval courtly love, when the beguiling of an innocent virgin could be accomplished with flattery, favours and a joust or two. But baser motives have never been far below the surface, and, ultimately, the methods that work are the basic ones: get them to notice you in the crowd, make them feel special, win their trust, make their pupils dilate, get them into bed.

How Men Act When They Are Lying

If I asked you to picture the stereotypical man who was cheating, you might describe someone who is always late, who is cold and distant, and who is presently distracted with activities like hiding his cell phone, and washing his own clothes to hide any evidence of their extracurricular activities.

The Fall In Love Secrets

Are you searching for the way to get into a man's heart? Do you want to know how you can get from the like to love phase in a relationship? Do you know what it takes to get a guy to fall in love with you?

So many women end up feeling frustrated because of how long it takes men to fall in love. As a result, they pressure, nag, complain, and give ultimatums. However, if they knew the secret to what it really takes to get a guy to fall in love, they might approach it differently.

Sex Toys - Spice Things Up

What toy should you invest in? Well, that depends on what you want to experience and how much you are willing to pay. Many of the toys we are going to explore here are well worth the money. Starting to get slightly queasy at the thought of shelling out dough for what your hand has been providing free for years? Well, compare that to the amount you have spent on dinners, flowers, movies, etc. Doesn’t even come close. And the sex toy might even last longer than your relationship…

There is of course another alternative to the commercial sex toy.

What Women Love & Hate in Anal Sex

Anal sex is just one of those things: She either loves it, or she hates it. There is very little in between. Most women have tried it at some point, and a fair few of them will never dare again despite their hankering to be one of the "lucky ones" who love anal sex. The reason for this avoidance is clear: pain. If there was no pain, there was probably pleasure. Hence, love or hate.

University Employee bought Lingerie, Sex Toys

The purchase history of a former Oklahoma State University employee is under review after thousands of dollars worth of personal purchases were discovered on a university credit card.

The questionable purchases ranged from lingerie and sex toys to DVDs and Wii games.

Cynthia Low, formerly a senior financial assistant with OSU’s chemistry department, resigned in February when university officials noticed the purchases.

Comfort Places and Atmosphere for a Better Sex

While you may have already indulged in different kinds of love-making with your partner, it's important to ensure the right settings to make the most of a night of passion. Be it the bedroom ambiance, surrounding items, lighting, aroma or anything that helps boosting your sexual desire, the decor of the room must be in accordance with your mood and the kind of sex you want to indulge in.

Marriage and relationship counselor Gitanjali Sharma elucidates, "Sex is a natural need for all human beings. But there has to be appropriate arousal for a night of passion and the environment, ambience and bedroom settings play a major role is stimulating your sexual hormones. Just like we eat when we are hungry, similarly, there has to be a sex drive and a physical desire to make you indulge in sex and it come from various things in the pleasure playground."

Couples indulge in sex for various reasons. Some want to experiment and try out new things in bed, while others love seeing their partner experience heights of pleasure. There are others too who love pampering their partner through diverse forms of sex.

Here are various settings that can enhance your sexual camaraderie.

Create an innovative environment during experimental sex
As the name suggests, an experiment signifies something creative and out-of-box, so it could be a wild sexual stint. Couples opting for experimental sex aim to bring back the excitement and lust filled initial-days of their relationship. No matter how long they've been into their relationship, there is a need to have an Earth-shattering sexual experience every once in a while.

DO IT RIGHT : Dr Amita Mishra, a sex and relationship expert suggests, "When it's about being experimental, try out just about everything. From the sofa to the floor, living room to the kitchen, bathtub to the garden, let your imagination take over completely. Enacting a porn star or a pole dancer act could take your spouse by surprise. Having meals in a semi-clad state will ignite your partner's erotic side. Keep sexual props like whips, chains, pompoms and streamers handy to add to the mood."

Pamper your beau during make-up sex
Make-up sex is a quick and effective way to get rid of an ugly argument, so if you had a gut-wrenching fight with your spouse, there can be nothing better than indulging in a sexual reconciliation. While the act gives you several chances to say 'sorry' to your partner, don't forget the right ambiance is e a blessing in disguise. Not only it will make your partner feel pampered, but also let you gradually descend towards a sex romp.

DO IT RIGHT : Marriage and relationship counselor Gitanjali Sharma adds, "Keep a nice musical show piece, preferably a couple doing ball dance, alongside the bed that makes a chiming sound to add to the soothing aroma that you wished to create. Also, a lavish chandelier placed right above your bed can create the right combination of light and shadow. Also, decorate the room with flowers, place some surprise gifts for your partner, use satin bed sheets, heart shaped pillows etc that create a perfect atmosphere that makes your partner forget the fight and enjoy the sexual gratification."

Shopping Attraction

Research reveals many of us size up potential partners by the contests of their shopping basket!

Women have come clean and confessed to a guilty shopping secret.

A new survey reveals that nearly nine out of ten women in the UK judge their fellow shoppers on the contents of their shopping basket.

When it comes to sizing up men, it seems that nothing impresses women more than a man who buys red wine and potatoes!

Sweeping judgement

These findings lift the lid on just how far women go when eyeing up men at the checkout, revealing that they decide what their income is, what kind of lifestyle they lead and whether they'd make a good partner or even father, all based upon the contents of their shopping.

A bottle of red wine (95%) and new potatoes (93%) top the list of grocery items which women associate with a man who has a good job, beating other everyday purchases such as mince, soup, fish and ketchup.

Fresh fruit and vegetables in the basket are good sign too – so say 87% of women who named new potatoes, joint with apples, as the top items that show a man would make a good partner or husband.

Likewise, apples, cucumbers (both 88%) and new potatoes (86%) top the list of items women associate with a man who would make a good father.

Negative choices

The big basket turn-offs for women include cans of lager with more than eight in ten women associating them with a man who leads an unhealthy lifestyle.

Instant soup convinces 86% of women that a man is lazy and 80% that he has a poor job and salary.

Snap decision

In less time than it can take a man to decide between a shopping basket and a shopping trolley, women have sized men up and come to some big conclusions.

In under 10 seconds, two thirds of women will have checked out his shopping and decided if a man leads a healthy lifestyle, 62% will have determined if he takes care of himself and six in ten whether he has a lot of money.

Relationship expert Kate Taylor comments:

"Women are trained to spot suitable mates, and have many unconscious ways of assessing a man's partnership potential – including his height, the symmetry of his features and even his smell. Secretly snooping at a man's shopping is just the modern way of seeing what kind of provider he would be.

Some shopping basket items clearly have more "attractive" associations for women than others. As most "attractive" qualities are actually signs of fertility – like healthy skin tone or an inverse V shaped male torso – men should not overlook the pulling power of certain foods such as potatoes and apples. Women subconsciously want good fathers for their kids. New potatoes probably rank highly because they are healthy and take little time to prepare – a good father doesn't lock himself in the kitchen for hours to try to escape from his other domestic duties.

Seeing fresh fruit and veg in a man's shopping basket also inspires women to think he takes good care of himself. This personality trait is amazingly attractive, especially to modern women who know they won't have time to nag a partner about his health or take on the overhauling of his diet like a big project. As women constantly stretch themselves to improve, they want men who can keep up. So potatoes, apples and other healthy fruit and veg say 'You won't have to mother me' which is highly desirable."

Keen on cooking

When it comes to the foods that a man needs to buy in order for a woman to want him to cook for her, new potatoes top the list (two thirds of respondents) followed by onions (61%), other potatoes (e.g. baking or roasting potatoes) and a bottle of red wine (both with 55% of the vote).

The survey also reveals that nearly two thirds of women will decide that a man buying potatoes or new potatoes is interested in cooking, 58% will assume that he is healthy and 54% will deem that he is practical - proving he can look after himself.

Regional warning

Men in the South West should be particularly wary of what they put in their shopping baskets as more women (91%) judge others on what they buy than any other region.

If they want to impress women, men should also ensure that they put new potatoes in their baskets as they are the top item that women in the region associate with a healthy lifestyle (98%) and good partner material (92%).

Sex & Food

Is eating chocolate better than having sex?

The reason we love chocolate is the pleasure principle that it brings to us - it has a chemical in it that raises our endorphines. Also, research has shown that eating chocolate raises our heart beat much higher than having a kiss. For some people, eating chocolates is definitely much better - it's certainly a good substitute if you're feeling a bit miserable. It has the same effect on you, making you feel happy in the same way as sex. Of course, chocolate doesn't make demands, so in some ways it's a lot easier to deal with than having sex.

What are aphrodisiacs?

Aphrodisiacs are types of food, minerals or sediments that are supposed to raise your libido, to raise your sexual desire and give you more sexual stamina. That is essentially what aphrodisiacs are, and the definition of what they are supposed to do.

Is there any truth that oysters are aphrodisiacs?

Oysters are an aphrodisiac. Oysters are full of Zinc and Selenium, which are minerals that we need—both men and women—to manufacture testosterone in the body. A good dose of Zinc is great for helping your libido and your sexual stamina. You'll get it from other shellfish as well, like scallops and good old Cod. Halibut will also give it to you, so you can feel good about going down for some fish and chips.

Are there foods I can eat to increase my libido?

There are definitely foods that are recommended to increase your libido - any diet that is high in fruits, vegetables, and complex carbohydrates. What is recommended is an ideal diet - are they the things that will keep you healthy? It is the connection between being healthy overall and a good sex life. Particular foods are things like avocados - the Spanish Conquistadors thought that they were a really powerful stimulant. Tomatoes, their other name is the love apple, are full of lycopene, which is an anti-oxidant useful in combating cancer, but also helps to stimulate hormonal production, and therefore helps your libido. Start making salads!

Can I take supplements to increase my libido?

Yes, there's good research that has been done on supplements that you can take. The vitamins A, B, C and E are the most important ones. Of those, the primary one to get is the group B vitamins.

What food can I use to seduce my partner?

Foods that you can use to seduce your partner, are those that you can eat with your fingers. Shellfish is not only good for your libido, but it's easy to have a plate of oysters, mussels, or prawns. Dips. Stuff that you can dip food into - so good old hummus, tara musselata, something like that. Asparagus, celery. All of these things are not only good for your health, but these are all the foods that are good for improving your general health, and therefore your libido. Champagne maybe. Vanilla, interestingly. Get a vanilla pod and put that in some champagne. The aroma of vanilla is a sexual stimulant. Strawberries. Anything which is easy to eat with the hands or to eat off your partners body.

Former Sex Slave Urges Australia for Help

Chan Sineth is one of the few fortunate ones to escape the child sex slavery that 1.8 million children are sold into across the world each year.Class 'push-0' just right-aligns the element so that the main content comes first.

Australian sex offenders are contributing to the growth of the trade and Neth (Neth) is in Australia to implore the government to do more to help stop more girls being enslaved like her.

"I want to appeal to the Australian government to help the poor children, especially the girls in Cambodia. The problem of trafficking of girls in Cambodia is getting increased," Neth told AAP.

Neth was sold by her mother when she was 14, spending a horrific year as a sex slave in Cambodia before being rescued in 2004 by American journalist Nicholas Kristof who bought her from her pimp for $150.

After graduating from a transition centre where she lived with 15 other former sex slaves, she set up a store which her family looted and is now successfully studying beauty therapy, anatomy and English and teaches yoga to disadvantaged children.

She is also determined to raise awareness of sex trafficking and help other girls who come from families like Neth's.

"I think there is no other option because of the poverty, so they have to sell their children for money like my own family," she said.

Neth has joined Australian child protection charity Childwise to launch its campaign in Melbourne on Tuesday to have Australians sign a petition to stop the sex slave trade.

It's not just about tackling poverty in countries like Cambodia where many families find their daughter's virginity is their best source of income.

And it's not just a foreign problem, says Childwise chief executive Bernadette McMenamin. Australian sex offenders feed the slave traders, making up 31 per cent of sex tourists prosecuted in Thailand.

The federal government and police don't do enough about it, Ms McMenamin says.

"There is this apathy in Australia and many Western countries that there is this inevitability," Ms McMenamin said.

"But we know there are a multitude of programs that need to be in place to keep children in school, to support families and provide families with alternatives to the sale of children.

"It can be done if the government turns their minds to this and works together and says that this is as important as global warming'.

"It's not just about poverty, it's about all the other factors combined, it's about organised crime, it's about sex tourism and we are one of, if not the biggest, offender in South-East Asia.

"The government do not take it seriously, we are demanding they take it seriously."

Ms McMenamin wants the federal government to increase its current level of aid 10-fold to help establish support programs and education in villages in countries such as Cambodia, Vietnam, Thailand and Laos.

She also wants the Australian Federal Police to be more proactive, for sex offenders to be reported when they travel overseas and to be brought back to Australia for prosecution.

Childwise is supported by a Monash University survey of 18,000 Australians in which 73 per cent of respondents said they wanted the government to do more to fight the crime.

Love Yourself and Love Others

When we think of the power of love we most often think of passion, happiness and all the pleasure that is possible. Yet we know we feel the power of love in the realest and most tangible way, when we are struggling through tough times. Taking the risk to love and seek love is more real in those times more than any other.

Love Conquers All is viewed as a cliché, a seemingly trite statement that is brought into the darkest of moments to bring a shred of light. When we contemplate the thought more deeply, we are able to see the truth of it.

When we speak of love what we are really speaking about is relationship. For love involves a heart. Yes, we say we love our homes, our passions, our belongings, yet actually we value them. We love people. We love other breathing entities that are full of life. Yes we love animals, because we are in relationship with them. There is an exchange of energy, and exchange of emotion…

In tough times it is hard to maintain relationships with our selves and others, hence a sense of love becomes elusive. The demands of trying times divert energy that is normally used to foster love, to solving problems, prioritizing resources and managing time. The tactical becomes more real and in turn our emotional needs are often the last priority, when in fact they should be the most important.

We focus out side of ourselves and allow our personal needs to be put to the side. The people around us are also in that same mode. It is easier to share a chore, cook a meal or give a ride, than to share, often times, painful feelings that go along with the hard times.

We look at the painful feelings as weakness, yet it is the honesty of these feelings that brings people closer together and strengthens the love between us.

Being able to share painful feelings requires a level of self love.

Self love you ask?? Yes, Being able to expose our vulnerabilities requires a level of self love that goes unrecognized as such. Being able to open your self up and allow yourself to be seen is an act of self love. It is an expression of the need to be loved. In all actuality, that expression can only come from self love.

How many times have we heard, “I do not love myself.” We have all said it. As a coach, I hear it from clients all the time. It is a strange thing. Yet here they are, investing in them selves and seeking support, this in it self is an act of self love as well.

Selflove is the most under valued version of love. We know all about “Love your neighbor as yourself.” We generally focus on the first half, forgetting that the first half is predicated on the skill of the second half.

The love of self becomes evident when we are able to reach out beyond our selves and seek the love and support of others. For without self love, we are often unable to see the value of going out of ourselves for what we need.

Worthiness comes into play as we begin to explore the concept of self-love and self respect. We look at our past experiences in order to gauge our worthiness. We naturally ask ourselves, “Did this person love us?” “Did that person support us?”, “Have I received what I deserved?” So many elements come into play as we look at our own worthiness, no less the worthiness of others.

In giving and receiving love, worthiness is a factor that we as humans have a hard time conceiving. Of course we say to ourselves, “Everyone is worthy of love!” Aren’t they??

Here is the challenge! How do we look at ourselves as worthy of love, and how do we see others as worthy of love. For healthy and balanced relationships to happen, our sense of self love MUST be in the mix! Our ability to ask for help, love, and acceptance is the beginning of love flowing to others. As we reach out to ask, we give others permission to give to us, as well as tell them we love them because we trust them enough to ask for it.

Giving and receiving, in the right proportions is the cycle of love. Both people must love themselves enough to receive as well as to give.

The Dali Lama expresses it well, “When we feel love and kindness towards others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace. And there are ways in which we can consciously work to develop feelings of love and kindness.”

Make Time for Your Relationship

"We don’t have to wait till Valentine's Day to think about relationships, whether we're in one or would like to be. Most people would agree that romance is the key element beneath the relationship pot.

Be it a steamy, sizzling wok or a warm, steady slow-cooker, romance is the flame that generally gets-and keeps-the heat of love alive. But what exactly is "romance"?

When my wife and I were dating, we were ultra-romantic in the usual sense of the word. There were roses, love letters, surprise gifts, spontaneous adventures, and hours upon hours of talking and... you know, that other stuff.

To be honest, though, some of the initial romantic heat has cooled off a bit. Like couples everywhere, we find ourselves pressured by the demands of daily life: work, children, finances, household chores and commitments to extended family.

Yet, through all our years together, we have somehow found a way to balance these things.

And while our definition of romance has changed somewhat according to our altered circumstances, we still manage to keep our relationship fresh and exciting. White-hot all-consuming passion has melted into love, consideration and affection.

But most of all, romance for us has become a way of making the ""everyday"" exciting. It doesn't take a lot of money or effort - just a commitment to making our relationship special by paying attention to it and a willingness to make.

Remember that only romance keeps the spark alive.

It keeps a relationship vital and interesting. And... it takes time!

Nurturing your relationship, enhancing it, and keeping it flourishing takes time, which is all too precious for many couples.

But by establishing priorities and setting goals, by making better use of the time you have, and by creating time you thought you didn't have, you CAN find more time for each other.

The first thing to do is prioritize!

You can spend your time in one of four ways, doing things that are:

• Important and urgent (such as caring for your child that has fallen down and is bleeding);
• Important but not urgent (sitting together sharing about your day);
• Not important but urgent (taking your suit for dry cleaning, before tomorrow's meeting);
• Not important and not urgent (switching on the TV and zapping between the channels).

When you look at all your time-consuming tasks, let go of any task that is not important.

By focusing most of your time on doing what is important but not urgent, you can eliminate a lot of the crises (important and urgent) as well as the unimportant things. Your perspective on what

constitutes ""urgent"" will also change. Here are a few important, but not urgent, activities to put high on your priority list:

1. Have a regular daily chat.

Turn off the TV and the cell phone and sit together for a short time, uninterrupted and face-to-face, every day to share your thoughts and feelings. Tell each other the little details as well as the big news. Focusing on each other for as little as fifteen minutes can make a huge difference. You will both feel appreciated and heard.

2. Spend one evening together each week.

Plan a specific night each week for your special date. Get a babysitter or trade childcare time with a friend. Once scheduled, treat the commitment as if it were written in stone. Don't break the date!

Take turns planning the activity (and occasionally surprise each other). Take in a movie, go for a bike ride, have a bubble bath, dancein your kitchen. Whether it's a dress-up home-cooked meal or a picnic dinner on the living room floor, make it special. It doesn't have to be expensive, just generous.

3. Spend some "day" time together.

Get up earlier than normal and have breakfast together at a coffee shop. Commute together if at all possible. Meet at lunchtime for a quiet meal or a "stolen moment".

Rendezvous after work for a drink and an appetizer before dinner. Meet at a park for a walk in the fresh air.

You'll be surprised how lively conversation can become when you're meeting in the middle of the day, away from the household chores.

The anticipation of a planned evening or activity can be fun and exciting, even if (especially if!) you've been together for a long time.

By making a date, you'll set aside the special time your relationship deserves and rediscover the romance that started it all."

Healing a Broken Heart

So, you're nursing a broken heart? What you have to remember is that you can get through it. Ask around and you'll find that loads of people you know have had their hearts broken. Most of them are OK now. And one day you'll be OK too. Better than that you'll be fine. But right now, it's hard to believe that.

First love
Getting over your first love is incredibly difficult. This is because we all think our first, real, wonderful, romantic love will last forever. Funnily enough, we don't look at our friends and their early relationships and think that they will last forever. And we know statistically that most people do not fall in love at 17 or thereabouts and stay with that person for life. But knowing these things does not seem to stop us from feeling that our particular first love is golden and timeless and unlike any other. So when it ends it's shattering.

The only comfort is that this romance has shown you how much love you have to give. And people with love to give are attractive individuals that others are drawn to. One day, you'll look back at your first love and realise that it was a great dress rehearsal for subsequent relationships. But you're unlikely to feel that right now.

Treat yourself gently
You can feel so 'knocked' after your heart is broken that you feel seriously ill, or as if you've been in a car crash. So, treat yourself as if you are recovering from a bad illness or a road traffic accident. Let other people care for you, too. Get as much sleep as possible. Eat lovely foods. Convalesce. And allow yourself to cry - even if you're a bloke. It's horrible at the time, but you'll feel better afterwards. All in all, take life gently - you've had a shock, and your mind and body need time to get over it.

Pep up your social life
Your friends will help you get over it. Soon, they'll be asking you to come out in a group to the cinema or the pub or whatever. At first you won't be in the mood, but soon you'll realize that there are some bonuses to being single again. In fact, you'll find that this is a good time to do stuff that you didn't do with your ex. So now you can go to the sorts of films that you like, or you can listen to your type of music, or go on your type of holiday.

Look back to look forwards
Once you're over the stage of feeling shocked and ill, try to look back at your relationship as it really was, not through the rose-tinted spectacles you've worn for so long.
Write a list of the things that you don't miss about your ex. At first you'll be thinking that you loved everything about this person, but you didn't. What about those awful jokes, the rows, how you always had to make the arrangements if anything was to get done, the times when your ex put you down or made you feel stupid or how they didn't like your best mate? There are always elements to our past loves that weren't right, and this is a good time to focus on them.

Starting again
Sometimes when our hearts are broken we want to find someone new to love us as soon as possible. This is natural - but unwise. Your best bet is to embrace your single life wholeheartedly for six months or so. Obviously you may end up having sex with other people - but do make sure it's safe sex.

However, your emotions are not going to settle for quite a while, so have fun, but don't go looking for anything else serious until you're happy without your ex. You'll know you're getting over your heartache when you can get through a whole day without thinking about them.